Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, however, I think it depends on what season of your life in which you experience pregnancy that really matters.
During my junior year of high school, I started to notice an increase in teenagers and young adults becoming pregnant. Since 3 years have past since then and I am now a sophomore in college, I have began to analyze how and why more and more teenage girls and young women are becoming pregnant.
If you're interested in most of the things that I post on this blog, I assume you are old enough to know how people get pregnant, so I won't insult you by explaining the scientific process. However, I will go over a few sex-ed "rules" or tips in case you were asleep during that part of high school.
ABSTINENCE: We all know that the only way to not get pregnant at all is to "keep em closed". Sex is not mandatory to maintain a healthy relationship before marriage, and if you are not comfortable doing it, then don't! He will just have to deal with it, and if he makes it too much of an issue, tell him to delete your number and politely add him to your block list. Not to mention, that The Lord said wait until you get married, and if nothing else that should be enough.
CONDOMS: Although sex should be reserved for marriage, we all slip up and make mistakes, and that is TOTALLY okay. God forgives so you should not feel guilty or shameful at all. All I ask is that if you are going to have sex, or if you are actively having sex, please use condoms!! Not only will these prevent you from becoming pregnant, but they also protect you from STDs, and the only consequence of sex ,worst than having a baby (at the wrong time of course) is getting AIDS, or some other disease. Also, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, save the "I'm allergic to latex BS", because they have condoms that are made without.
BIRTH CONTROL: If you plan to be sexually active birth control is a great option as well, IN ADDITION TO condoms. Remember that I said "in addition to" and not "IN PLACE OF!" Birth control should act as your safety net in the event that something goes wrong. There are many forms such as the pill, the shot, NuvaRing, and many others. DO some research on your own and talk to your doctor about which form of BC is best for you.
The most important thing to remember is to protect your body and your future!
WHY?
This can't be proven, but I think that most young ladies getting pregnant actually want to get pregnant. I know this sounds crazy, but people have done crazier things than getting pregnant on purpose. Yes, I said it, I THINK GIRLS ARE GETTING PREGNANT ON PURPOSE! Why? Because condoms have a typical failure rate of about 18%, meaning that the success rate is about 82%. Put that on top of most forms of birth control that have a 9% failure rate and 91% success rate, then yes there should be some pregnancies, but not so many. I say that because of the whole "the condom broke story" There is a higher chance of a guy not wearing a condom, than it actually breaking… and that's exactly what I think is happening.
**I know it takes two to tango, but after he tangos, you're the one stuck with the baby and your dreams are put on hold, not vice-versa.
With that being said, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GET PREGNANT TO KEEP A MAN! That is one of the worst ideas in the history of mankind. If you think you have to have a baby in order to keep your man, you don't need that man and you DEFINITELY don't need a baby.
"You is kind, you is smart, and you is important." You do not have to have sex, have a baby, or do anything else that is life changing in order to get or keep a boyfriend. Live your life and do the things that you like and the right guy will come to you. I know people say that all the time, but that's because it's true.
Don't look up and 5 years of your life has past because you had your head up some boys butt, or cut your life short to have a baby by a boy who doesn't love you. You and your baby deserve more.
I hope this has helped someone put things into perspective. Once you get pregnant you can't send it back. As harsh as it may sound, the only options you have are to keep it (which changes your life forever), or get rid of it, whether through abortion or adoption (which changes your life forever).
Make smart choices, they mold and shape your life.
Always with love,
Gabs!
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